Love is a emotional response created by a chemical inbalance in the brain, the same chemical imbalance that can cause lust, jealousy and the like as well.
I don't want to find a lover, I want to find a lifelong companion in a girl. Someone who'd be there for me and realize that life and relationships don't end the moment the chemicals settle down. Know why the divorce rate is so high in young people like me today?
Because relationships never get past that "lust" stage, you love her, you have "fun" with her, and when the chemical imbalance disappears you move on because the so called "love" isn't there.
You can find a different person to "love" each and every week if you really wanted to, so why bother, I'd take a good friend that I have known for years as my wife then some girl I met and that I'm supposed to think that I "love".
Right or wrong that is how I view the whole love issue. Hence why love is the last thing on my mind when looking and dating girls.