Am I a bad parent?

Donut Slayer · Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 5:23 pm Post subject: Am I a bad parent?

I'm having a problem with my 18 yo daughter. She's in her 1st year of college but she thinks she is an adult and dosent have to live by any rules. She's doing good right now as she still lives at home and somewhat understands that as long as she's under my roof, she has to live by my rules. Well, a few weeks back, she took some tequlia without me knowing. I found out and the fit hit the shan, if you know what I mean. Were over it now. Tonight I went and got one of them small bottles of vodka and drank it. Then took the bottle and filled it with apple cidar vinegar. And then put it in the fridge where she could find it. Wonder what kinda noises she's gonna make when she finds it and takes a sip. ROFL

Yep, I gotta be a bad parent. Now, where can I put my game video camera to film her at the fridge?????

gelandangan · Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 6:11 pm Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

Donut,
My daughter is going to be 18 next month.
She did rebel as most teenager do, although in a way I am lucky since both my daughters are very keen in competitive sports (they both are in national level),
they would think hard and long before succumbing into any type of stimulant (alcohol included).

The best thing I have ever heard from a mate of mine is,
"Think of what you would behave at that age. Your offspring is a reflection of what you were. And you turns out OK didn't you?"
Yeah, at the age, I also experiments, be it good or bad, I am what I am today.

I am sure your daughter would turns out Ok, she is just stretching her wings..
(I hope mine does too)

Bushmaster · Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 6:59 pm Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

My mother on raising your children..."Remember when you were a kid. You should not expect anything different from your own".

Hummm. Reminds me of when I was working under my pickup when my oldest was 16. Ask him to get me a beer. He did after he had dumped it and replace the beer with water. Never spit water straight up when you are under a pickup.

dhc4ever · Posted: Wed Sep 05, 2012 11:21 pm Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

Kids, even the older ones need boundaries.
Regardless of her current age taking something without permission is simple THEFT, and she's stealing from you.
Well you've no doubt had your say, now we all get to watch and see if the talking too worked.
Brilliant idea BTW, love it.
More the sign of a good parent than a bad one, now its up to her.

Elvis · Posted: Thu Sep 06, 2012 12:22 am Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

but I like apple cider vinegar!!!!!
only suggestion I have is ask her to pay for the replacement bottle.

Vince · Posted: Thu Sep 06, 2012 1:36 am Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

I'm with Elvis...suggest rather strongly that she needs to replace your bottle of Tequila...or you will put ALL liquor under lock and key.

I suppose the next consideration is the legal drinking age in your neck of the woods. Out here it is 18 so it isn't a problem here, but I believe it is 21 in the US...could be a legal issue that you need to remind her about for her own sake.

I think every one of us tried alcohol at a young age...I know I was 16 when I had my first beer, and 17 the first time I got maggoted...was a couple of years before I did that again I can tell ya.

I think the major issue here is she took the tequila without asking. You need to impress upon her that what she did is wrong. Tell her you are extremely disappointed with her for betraying your confidence...for what she did...you raised her to be a better person than that.

Cheers, Vince

Dimitri · Super Member Joined: Nov 25, 2005 Posts: 5944

Donut Slayer wrote:

I'm having a problem with my 18 yo daughter. She's in her 1st year of college but she thinks she is an adult and dosent have to live by any rules.

Do what my father did, instead of threatening to kick her out (as he did to my youngest brother) threaten to move out and leave her with the mortgage and bills! Very Happy

Donut Slayer wrote:

Well, a few weeks back, she took some tequlia without me knowing.

Lock it up. She'll get annoyed by it, and eventually burst out a complaint after trying to get at the booze a couple of times that its locked now. Better then even a picture for admission of guilt!

gelandangan wrote:

My daughter is going to be 18 next month.

When the heck did that happen? It seems like just yesterday you posted a picture of them being tiny little girls! Shocked

Dimitri

radar · Posted: Thu Sep 06, 2012 9:31 pm Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

No youre not a bad parent. I agree with all of the above,
I'm bloody glad my boys, now 19 and 21, didn't behave like me cause I was a little shit! - I just didn't get caught all that often.
Yep she's going to push the bounds, but talk to her like an adult, give her wings with boundaries.

Aloysius · Posted: Fri Sep 07, 2012 12:07 am Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

Consider yourself happy it's a daughter... it's not so easy for her to pee in your whiskey-bottle... Smile

Elvis · Posted: Fri Sep 07, 2012 2:13 am Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

Aloysius wrote:

Consider yourself happy it's a daughter... it's not so easy for her to pee in your whiskey-bottle... Smile

pleased to hear Im not the only one to have done that Embarassed

Vince · Posted: Fri Sep 07, 2012 4:28 am Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

Aloysius wrote:

Consider yourself happy it's a daughter... it's not so easy for her to pee in your whiskey-bottle... Smile

Not anymore Aloys...the girlies are just as "capable" as the guys now mate. Shocked

Cheers, Vince

Suzanne · Posted: Fri Sep 07, 2012 6:19 am Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

I got handed one of those when I went rock climbing once. Last time I went rock climbing on a full bladder (works good tho)

Bushmaster · Posted: Fri Sep 07, 2012 6:39 am Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

Is that what those are for? I thought they were for adding oil to the engine of my pickup when I changed oil.

Hummm...Wife might not be happy with me if she finds out.

Vince · Posted: Fri Sep 07, 2012 7:03 am Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

Cheers, Vince

Aloysius · Posted: Fri Sep 07, 2012 7:48 am Post subject: Re: Am I a bad parent?

a drop of oil now and then on the right spot makes things run smooth... Smile